Bro, you’re not failing, you’re just too tense

Shawn Hesmatpour

Published on: 17/11/2025

I hate this. I hate how my mind works. I hate everything about how society operates. I hate how I have to “improve myself” in order to feel like I can get a girlfriend. All the other dude’s I grew up around made it look easy. No therapy needed...

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The Myth of the Perfect Moment

Shawn Hesmatpour

Published on: 23/06/2025

Here’s what I’ve been seeing lately, and I’ve lived it too: Men are sitting on the sidelines, waiting. Waiting for the perfect woman to fall into their lap. Waiting for the perfect business idea to magically appear. Waiting for the perfect moment...

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